Step 1

Why are all self-help programs labeled as 12-step programs?  Is it some 12 step miracle that somehow from 1 to 12 we are automatically better at the end?  We spend so much of our time assuming the world can fit into this black and white box and if we can just catagorize, label, and place everything in its box; then somehow we can make meaning of it all.

The older I get, to more I see that nothing fits into any specific box.  There's no right thing to say to make a friend feel better after a loss.  There's no right thing to do in order to show people that you are a leader.  The world goes by pretending it knows what's going on and what the world is about, but somehow it really doesn't. 

I spent a year of my life in Iraq, and blogged as much as possible about it.  I'm spending this year looking for myself, and hopefully along the way I can help you.